Selena Shiqi Zhu obituary photo
 
In Memory of

Selena Shiqi Zhu

September 1, 2016 - February 28, 2017

Obituary


Service for Selena Shiqi Zhu- Saturday, March 11, 2017

Do not judge a song by its duration, nor by the number of its notes
Judge it by the richness of its contents
Sometimes those unfinished are among the most poignant
Judge by the way it touches and lifts the soul
Sometimes those unfinished are among the most beautiful
Be thankful that God has let something enrich your life, only for that moment
And now that sweet melody will linger on in your heart forever.

I am sure this morning was very difficult for...

Service for Selena Shiqi Zhu- Saturday, March 11, 2017

Do not judge a song by its duration, nor by the number of its notes
Judge it by the richness of its contents
Sometimes those unfinished are among the most poignant
Judge by the way it touches and lifts the soul
Sometimes those unfinished are among the most beautiful
Be thankful that God has let something enrich your life, only for that moment
And now that sweet melody will linger on in your heart forever.

I am sure this morning was very difficult for all of us. This day as we woke up, got our coffee, showered and dressed.we all knew what we were preparing for. I know as we were all getting ready, we took a moment and wondered about our dear, Tina and Dafeng.
On behalf of the family I would like to thank you for your presence here this morning. We have gathered here to speak words of comfort and express our condolences of the death of little Selena. Your presence here today, affirms to Tina, Dafeng and the family, that they are not alone in their grief.
We are so often puzzled by circumstances, caught by surprise, and definitely unprepared for life changing events. We all pray and hope our life remains on a steady course. When traumatic events occur we automatically ask the why's and look for the how's. We try to start figuring things out. Tina and Dafeng, are both CPA's, they are comfortable with numbers. Numbers are real and factual. You can calculate and reason with the numbers. But sometimes there are no answers and sometimes things cannot be explained.
It is with time, patience and help from family and friends that the pain will be eased. Recalling the moments you had with Selena will build strength in your hearts. Remembering with love, rather than pain lifts the overwhelming burden of loss and helps us feel joy again.
There was joy when Tina and Dafeng learned they were pregnant again. They were excited to have another set of little foot prints in the home. In the 6th or 7th week they found out they were having twins. The joy and excitement would increase as they found out in the 20th week they were having girls.
Defeng told me he was a little nervous- wow twin girls! He did say he felt raising girls would be easier than raising a boy. He thought about them growing up and going to school together. He felt a bit sorry, for his son, Ryan, as he would be facing his new school world alone, not having a buddy system, whereas the girls would have each other's kinship.
Big brother Ryan was anxiously awaiting the birth of his two sisters. After they was born he was so proud of both little sisters, Selena and Elise. He became very protective of his sisters as visiting family members and friends would come to the home and tease him by saying to him they were going to take "just one" of the girls home with them. He'd say NO- they belong here with me!
Tina recalls Selena as her brave little fighter! Little Selena was the smaller of the girls, only weighing in at four pounds nine ounces. Selena might have been the smaller of the two but I was told she was the loudest.mom said she sounded like a "big whistle" when she cried! Her cries blasted through the house- she wanted to be heard! Selena was a competitor! She was trying her hardest to beat her younger sister in rolling, pulling herself up and raising her head and just holding it up. Mom said she surpassed Elise on several things. Selena seemed very happy and was getting stronger.
Her only competition now was big brother Ryan. She watched him and indeed was trying to catch on to what he was doing.
Tina said Selena liked her bath time. She would kick and splash and make her joyful noises. She would try to get her mom wet, then give a little cry as to say, "I'm sorry for getting you wet." There would be laughter and giggles from them both as they would look in the mirror and see their reflection as they said "there's Selena!"
She loved being held by her parents. Tina noticed Selena would get a little jealous if she saw Elise being held by someone, and she would let out a little cry- as to say.ok. "My turn now!"
Selena was an outgoing baby. She didn't mind being held by others. She was not scared to meet a new face and liked being held. She would make you bounce her on your knee- she's kick her knees and arms up. She liked to watch her arms and legs move - she wanted to feel her strength. She might have been a sports woman.
Tina told me she would sleep with her arms and hands up in the air- like a football goal.
With my words and the pictures you see on the video, you are witness to the melody of Selena. These are the little foot prints that will leave impressions on your heart. I'd like to take this opportunity to give any of you here time to offer your thoughts or any comforting words to the family.
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We thank God for the richness and beauty that Selena brought into the lives of those here today. Our prayers for her reach high up to the heavens just as the smoke from the incense lingers upwards.
We all have gathered here today to unite in a demonstration of compassion and goodness.
Tina and Dafeng, we; family and friends, are the community of faith that have emerged to respond to your hardship. We are here to help you through your pain.
We recognize your loss and see it as so inexplicably unfair. During this time you need consolation more than explanation. God gives us strength, the strength of Selena, in the form of caring and companionate people who are here for your today. We are here, to help you rise beyond the question, "why did this happen?" .and instead seek now, the moments of love and memories of joy that will bring you strength for tomorrow.
We will close our service here in the chapel with a few words of inspiration:
As we face the future without Selena, we acknowledge that we are forever changed by her death.
Be thankful that God has let something enrich your life, only for that moment
That sweet melody that was once outside of you is now within you, and moves through you; you are a channel for Selena and she will play from the center of your being forever. She walks with in your heart. You are one.
Again, thank you for your presence here today, we will be getting ready to go out to the cemetery for the final prayers and the interment.

Committal:
Thank you for joining us for this final service. We have come to honorably and respectfully bring Selena to her final resting place.
A Cemetery is a history of people, a perpetual record of yesterday and a sanctuary of peace and quiet today. A cemetery exists because every life is worth living and remembering always.
It is here that lives are commemorated, deaths are recorded, families are reunited, memories are made tangible and love is undisguised.
Tina and Dafeng, you lovingly embraced the children who were brought to you, and blessed them with a wonderful home.
May you find peace in your days as you recover from the loss of Selena. May God's goodness shine a ray of hope on your family and may He provide strength for healing you in this time of sorrow and pain.
May those gathered today be inspired by peace, hope and love.
May we all seek to become the utter goodness and bestow our greatest gifts on this earth. Our greatest act would be to become the gift and give our grace.
We will now commence with the traditional Chinese custom of burial.